Heather Menzies

November 16, 2022

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Should I have a micro wedding or elopement?

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It’s a tough decision whether to have a micro wedding or elopement. A micro wedding gives you the opportunity to have core friends & families there, but it doesn’t always mean that it is the right choice. That may sound harsh, but here are 3 very real things to consider before choosing a micro wedding over an elopement.

1. The Cost

One thing that may allow you to consider a micro wedding is you assume that it will be cheaper than a big traditional wedding, or “not much” more expensive than what an elopement would cost. Some venues charge more per plate if there are fewer people, for example. Or you may have to splurge in some areas due to having people in attendance at all.

The benefit of an elopement will always be a more controlled cost of everything. You get to decide what you will pay for and what you WANT to pay for as it is a small, intimate, private affair. And the money spent on a reception could go towards a trip, for example.

I would do your due diligence before choosing a micro wedding over an elopement and ensure that you know exactly what you are getting into in terms of cost.

2. Your Boundaries

Whether it is an elopement or a micro wedding, you have to consider your boundaries. Would it be easier to have no one rather than some and risk offending those who were not invited? Will you have to have a series of awkward conversations determining the guest list? Are you up for that?

Lots of couples choose to go with an elopement because of not wanting to have to deal with all of the nuances and boundary-setting that a micro wedding or even a traditional wedding can bring.

Either way, know what your boundaries are and make them clear. Many people could still be offended, but it doesn’t mean that your boundaries are harsh. It just means that you have them there for good reason.

personal vows at a micro wedding in Ontario Canada by Heather E Photography

3. What is your actual dream?

A micro wedding may be a common, middle ground. It may be something you do because it would mean not offending your core friends and family by having an elopement with no one there. But I want to ask you this: what is your actual dream? What do you and your partner actually want to do? Do you want to elope but fear ramifications? My hope for you would be that you would not choose a micro wedding because you are settling or feeling like an elopement isn’t possible for you. I am here to encourage you to chase your dreams, and won’t allow you to settle for less. I encourage you to evaluate your mind, heart, emotions, and thoughts and then make a decision. You don’t want to look back and have regrets. And I wouldn’t want that for you either.

I hope this blog post was helpful in giving you an idea of whether you want to elope or have a micro wedding. If you need any advice or someone who has been there to give you some guidance, get in touch! I’d love to help you make your dream day a reality.

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